The book claims to be ‘A Toolkit for Happiness, Purpose and Well-being’, and actually, it’s pretty good. It’s an easy read; clearly laid out and good to pick up as and when. For a couple of quid, it’s worth a buy, I think.
As with a lot of these kinds of books and articles, I find there is quite a lot of reference to the advantages of gratitude journalling and meditation, neither of which appeals to me.
Gratitude journalling means writing down something each day that has made you happy. I can’t be bothered to buy another notebook for something I won’t be bothered to commit to daily. The notebook will end up being used/stolen/eaten by the kids. Then I will get angry because when I want to use it, it won’t be there. This will result in me being neither meditative nor grateful.
As a compromise to gratitude journalling, I thought I’d instead share with you 5 things that made me happy this week.
With regards to meditation, I’m not convinced. Perhaps I’m not doing it right. Perhaps my brain is too flighty. Perhaps it’s just not for me. Am I doing something wrong?
Anyway, here are five things that made me happy this week:
Number One: The Kind Barista
I tend to be a regular at a handful of coffee shops within a certain vicinity. I don’t know whether it’s a good thing that I don’t have to voice my order, let alone my name, in any of them. Perhaps it’s just an indication of how much richer I would be if I didn’t frequent them so much.
As a rule, I do try to keep a smile on when facing others, regardless of whatever is going on inside my head or my heart. I believe that asking someone how they are, be they a stranger or a friend, has the power to change their whole day. After all, we are all fighting some kind of battle. Why add to anyone else’s?
There is a lovely young girl who only very recently started working in one of the coffee shops. We do like to have a little conversation whenever I visit. She is a hard worker, one that does so with a cheerful smile and a happy disposition and I love seeing her. She is one of those people that brings you joy, you know? So when I walked in and she got up from her break with a beaming smile and a ‘Hello, Tania!’ it already made what was proving to be a difficult day much better. When she insisted that she gave me her free staff drink as she wouldn’t be taking it by the end of the shift, my heart wanted to burst at her kindness.
She probably only thought she was offering me a drink, but to me, she changed my whole week with that act of kindness.
“Just make sure you remember me when I go back to uni in five weeks,’ she said with a laugh.
I certainly will.
What a sweetheart.
Number Two: My Friends
I spent many years becoming more and more isolated from my friends during my marriage. The decision to divorce enabled me to track down old friends and make new ones. My, how I appreciate every single one of them!
In the last six months I have had more of a social life (which mainly equates to friends coming over for dinner or a cuppa and a chat), than I have in the last 15 years.
They make me laugh, they prop me up, they talk nonsense with me and they are just all round good eggs. I can’t imagine having got so far without them.
Good eggs, I tell you.
Number Three: The Weather
We’ve been experiencing some exceptionally warm weather in the last week or so and by golly, I’m loving it.
I swear I am solar powered, so the added boost of extra blue skies, sunshine and hot days makes me so happy.
Apart from sticky, muggy nights where the kids knock on my bedroom door. Except they take it in turns, because it’s against Kid Law to ask for a drink at the same time as your sibling does. Apparently, in their world, it makes more sense to ask Mum for a drink when she’s already stumbled downstairs, hot, bothered and bleary-eyed, and returned with a cup of water for your sister, before you think to mention that actually, you want one too.
Kid Law needs to change now.
Number Four: Tomorrow
Some days lately have been really quite shitty. Knowing that we (hopefully) have tomorrow, with a new start and a new day, is something I have had to hold on to quite strongly at times.
And no, I’m not going to break out into a song from a musical.
I bet you do now, though.
Number Five: Working Out
The only list that working out would have made a few years back would be… oh no, that’s right, it wouldn’t have!
Which is how I got more than five stone overweight. I was totally unfit and feeling like a sack of squirrels on ecstasy had been wrenched into my clothes.
Nowdays, my opinion is very much different. In many ways, I think exercise has saved me, not only through physical fitness but emotionally and mentally too. The number of workouts I have done through tears of sadness, or to release some pent up anger or whilst I’ve reflected on something, are countless.
Plus you get to take scary-faced workout pics of yourself to laugh at after.
Honestly, working out works.
There you go.
My 5 things that made me happy this week.
What are yours*?
(*If I get any comments on this, it’ll be one of my happy points for next week! Not that I’m fishing or anything…)